How Self-Love Elevates Your Life
The purpose of this article is to assist you in understanding and internalizing the true meaning of self-love and self-worth. I believe that loving yourself is healthy because it helps you live in a balanced way. Without this understanding you will be challenged to form lasting relationships or give others the consideration they deserve.
My father was an alcoholic who viewed his world as a dicey game because of his bad luck. He spent his life blaming others for all the hard blows he was dealt early in life. As his first child, born premature and early in my parents’ marriage, my father never accepted me as his own; he viewed me as some other man’s child he was forced to raise.
The Bible verse, Mark 12:31, tells you to "love your neighbor as yourself," and that is a worthy habit to form. Loving yourself in a healthy way allows you to accept what is; to move on rather than to let your past define you. Otherwise your actions may be solely influenced by the way you were treated growing up. Those who were raised in dysfunctional households can relate.
While adults are able to filter and accept messages as needed, a child cannot. At birth, your brain’s prefrontal cortex, in charge of reasoning and personality is unprotected. Because you cannot handle the emotional pain, every time you are wounded, you outsource a piece of your personality, which takes on a life of its own. Until the approximate age of seven, you see the world in black and white terms. You internalize and believe what authority figures tell you and begin to mirror back your influencers’ perceptions and insufficiencies. Because the maturity process is not completed in your teenage years, you may still defend or take to heart the negative messages you hear.
This developmental process continues until your brain matures sometime in your mid-twenties to thirties. Now you begin to become better at solving problems and communicating with others.
But what happens to those subconscious beliefs you acquired in childhood? Unless healed, they are accepted and acted upon in situations at home and work, marriage, or parenting. So, what is the solution?
If you are dealing with confusing messages and behaviors, seek professional help, instead of handling life on your own. There are a myriad of therapists, counselors, and healers to choose from. I encourage you to do your research and find what works best for you.
I use a Conversational Method called Quantum Wellness, a form of alternative medicine, to guide you to find and heal areas of your life that prevent you from living fully and achieving your greatness. The work guides you to change your focus from sadness to compassionate self-love and understanding.
As Gabor Mate, retired physician tells us, "Bad experiences don’t make you bad."
Please go to my contact page to email me, I look forward to discussing this important work with you.
“Let today be the day you love yourself enough to no longer just dream of a better life; let it be the day you act on it.” -Steve Maraboli
Source: At What Age is the Brain Fully Developed, Mental Health Daily, https://mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/02/18/at-what-age-is-the-brain-fully-developed/
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A personal development speaker and healer, Cynthia Hazel, M.A. is an adult child of an alcoholic. Because she knows how mixed messages can negatively affect a person’s self-esteem, she has devoted herself to self-healing and has made it her mission to help others understand they are worthy of love and capable of living a balanced life.
The Bible verse, Mark 12:31, tells you to "love your neighbor as yourself," and that is a worthy habit to form. Loving yourself in a healthy way allows you to accept what is; to move on rather than to let your past define you. Otherwise your actions may be solely influenced by the way you were treated growing up. Those who were raised in dysfunctional households can relate.
While adults are able to filter and accept messages as needed, a child cannot. At birth, your brain’s prefrontal cortex, in charge of reasoning and personality is unprotected. Because you cannot handle the emotional pain, every time you are wounded, you outsource a piece of your personality, which takes on a life of its own. Until the approximate age of seven, you see the world in black and white terms. You internalize and believe what authority figures tell you and begin to mirror back your influencers’ perceptions and insufficiencies. Because the maturity process is not completed in your teenage years, you may still defend or take to heart the negative messages you hear.
This developmental process continues until your brain matures sometime in your mid-twenties to thirties. Now you begin to become better at solving problems and communicating with others.
But what happens to those subconscious beliefs you acquired in childhood? Unless healed, they are accepted and acted upon in situations at home and work, marriage, or parenting. So, what is the solution?
If you are dealing with confusing messages and behaviors, seek professional help, instead of handling life on your own. There are a myriad of therapists, counselors, and healers to choose from. I encourage you to do your research and find what works best for you.
I use a Conversational Method called Quantum Wellness, a form of alternative medicine, to guide you to find and heal areas of your life that prevent you from living fully and achieving your greatness. The work guides you to change your focus from sadness to compassionate self-love and understanding.
As Gabor Mate, retired physician tells us, "Bad experiences don’t make you bad."
Please go to my contact page to email me, I look forward to discussing this important work with you.
“Let today be the day you love yourself enough to no longer just dream of a better life; let it be the day you act on it.” -Steve Maraboli
Source: At What Age is the Brain Fully Developed, Mental Health Daily, https://mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/02/18/at-what-age-is-the-brain-fully-developed/
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A personal development speaker and healer, Cynthia Hazel, M.A. is an adult child of an alcoholic. Because she knows how mixed messages can negatively affect a person’s self-esteem, she has devoted herself to self-healing and has made it her mission to help others understand they are worthy of love and capable of living a balanced life.
